Dark Side of Blogging
As we start to become more integrated with the internet, and when it becomes a greater source of socializing new problems will crop up. Mainly, the division between what’s said and happens in real life is much different than what’s done on the internet.
I say things over email/chat/blogs which I would never really say to someone straight to their face. Not only is it easy just to pour out exactly what’s on your mind for everyone to read, but it’s a one way avenue of communication which can be problematic. Problematic because in a moment of anger/frustration/jubilation/etc… you would broadcast without filtering what you’re saying, and often without thinking much to the consequences of what you’re saying.
Yes, hiding behind a keyboard is very easy.
Within this past week something strange has happened to me. Rumours of Ashleigh, that would affect our friendship, were brought publicly through the form of blog posts. Now things have been rocky before with me and her, and this just brought things to a whole new level. Behind the comfort of a keyboard rumours were spread, and messages that should have been sent in private were made public for all to see. Maybe this was done out of frustration, or angst, or retaliation… I’m not sure exactly, but it made a profound impact on my friendship/”relationship” with Ashleigh, as well as between her and her friends.
So because of this, I have lost a lot of motivation for blogging. I know I haven’t been doing it often lately, and that will probably stay the same in the next little while. What really sucks though is that I do enjoy posting my poorly written blog, and as of late I’ve had a lot of interesting things to say. This summer just keeps on getting weirder and weirder.
In the meantime though, I will do my damndest to finish off my Coachella trip report. It’s been over a month since that trip ended, so I better do it soon before the memories fade.
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June 15th, 2006 at 2:04 pm
Lee,
Best post of yours I’ve read so far!
Especially hard-hitting are “one way avenue of communication”, “messages that should have been sent in private were made public” and “broadcast without filtering what you’re saying, and often without thinking much to the consequences of what you’re saying,” though I can’t say I have ever been so brash in any of my posts online as any of my “friends” were this week.
I could not have said things better myself in any way, and so I won’t. Nor will I ever begin to defend myself.
I’m glad you, at least, see the light.
Thanks for the post, Pokeroo!
June 15th, 2006 at 7:53 pm
I’m glad to hear from you again in some form Ash, I was beginning to worry since you hadn’t spoken to Mel or posted anything for quite awhile.
Everything I stated in Mel’s post is still what I believe. I know I’ve hurt you/pissed you off to an incredible degree, and for that I apologize. I just hope you at least speak to Mel again, even if you never want to speak to me again.
These last few months have been the worst of my life, so my emotional state was never that well grounded to begin with. But I hate making excuses, so I’ll stop right there.
I will rescind my Live Journal post since I get the idea that it greatly offends you. I still respect you and all you’ve gone through. Although I do believe to a certain degree the things I posted there, what I failed to realize is that in fact you cannot defend yourself online. And I forgot that I was speaking of a friend.
Again I apologize.
June 16th, 2006 at 12:14 am
Hey Lee, I just wanted to let you know that I really enjoy reading your blog, and hope this little incident won’t turn you off for very long. A few of my friends have blogs or webpages, and yours is the one I always read first, and enjoy the most. (I swear, I have a micro-orgasm every time I check your page and see a new post. hehehhe.. ewwwww..)
Anyway, thanks to the wonderful world of the internet, I have a vague idea now about what you’re talking about. I’d just like to caution the other parties involved that there’s such a thing as being too open on the internet. Just because you’re willing to divulge your private feelings in a public venue, doesn’t mean you have a right to publish these feelings when they impact on someone else. Just a thought. That’s probably enough judgemental bullshit from an uninvolved third party (hell, maybe 5th or 6th party at this point) observer.
Anyway, keep writing Lee. You have a talent and a following (at least one person strong), so come back soon.